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Sunday, January 30, 2011

Dealing with Difficult People!!

  • Analyse how difficult you are for others?
  • Think if you are percieved by others as difficult or demanding? There is a difference between being difficult and demanding.
  • It's better to understand, than to be understood.
  • Do not try to take charge of others' behaviour.
  • Do not bother about others' punctuality, maintain yours.
  • In any situation, you should be clear of the consequences. BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND.
  • Learn to say NO!!
  • Be crystal clear about your objectives/set limits of tolerable behaviour.
  • "An eye for an eye" does not work with relationships.
  • Be direct, and to the point.
  • Empower your staff in setting limits at office/family at home.
  • Avoid people with VERBAL DIARRHOEA(those who talk and talk and talk....)
  • Long talkers are generally avoided.
  • Always think: What NEXT?
  • Divide your jobs into two :
  • a. Maintainance/Routine Jobs - Delegate..
  • b. Futuristic/Growth Jobs - Take up yourself.
  • To be a good leader, learn to be a good trainer.
  • Always give feedback, and recieve.
  • Always do a cost benefit analysis before making any decision.
  • Try to be a good role model.
  • Be proactive.
  • Remember, every difficult person or situation is a challenge...take it!!
  • Think about the larger picture!!
  • Give your opinion, but be detached once decision is made.
  • Avoid Cross Transactions-Abrupt answers.
  • Maintain Complementary Transactions-Allow flow of ideas..
Useful references:

a. Wikipedia
b. Answers.com
c. “Workshop on Dealing with difficult people" by Dr.Shailendra Gupta
d. www.amaindia.org

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